~ MY LIFE WON'T BE THE SAME ~
~ THE BERLINER BEARS ~
How do you go on after you lose the best that life offered you and took it ~
~ Away ~
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((( YOU DON`T )))
How do you go on after you lose the best that life offered you and took it ~
~ Away ~
*
((( YOU DON`T )))
I met this girl back in 1955 in Berlin Germany. Her name was Ellen Stohr. Ellen was a nineteen living alone and doing well taking care of herself. working a full time job.*When I met Ellen, something came over me that I never felt before, I was also only very young at eighteen, and did not know what love felt like, or knew anything about it. It`s fifty years later and I still have that feeling I felt back than. But I do know what it`s all about now. Thanks to Ellen it`s called, Love
*
How do you go on after you lose your BEST FRIEND, your PARTNER, and your CARE-GIVER and HEALER........and Most of all my BELOVED WIFE.
*
MY BEST FRIEND , I could not have had a better or closer friend than my wife Ellen. We went and did everything most of our married life together, Ellen would always make sure that I was happy in what ever we were doing at all times, never thinking of herself, Ellen had told me many times she gets all her enjoyment out of seeing me being happy.
*
Ellen would always put me first, I was not as good at it as she was, Ellen would always have time to listen to my problems, and my fears. Ellen would always comfort me in many ways. She would talk to me as a friend and convince me that I could do and become what ever I aim for. I would lose confidence in myself many of times because of my lack of
education. And if it wasn`t for her strength and encouragement. I would not have this comfortable life I enjoy today.
*
MY PARTNER, we would always make sure that we didn`t ever think that one of us is ever better then the other. We
both had always believe in "It`s better to give then to receive". To have a long life together, you should meet each other at least half way. I always felt that house work, and teaching our children the do`s & dont`s was much harder then my job could ever be. I
would try to help at home cleaning the bath rooms and dusting and run the vac. But Ellen said no I did not have to do that, and said to me it is nice to know that you do realized it was a partnership in the house work and I was willing to help.
*
CARE-GIVER, I could not possibly explain all that Ellen would go though to make me, or any one of our children comfortable when any one of us was ill. Ellen had some of her old German remerdies her grandmother used on her, and believe me when I say this, Ellen would make us feel good being sick, sometimes I think we were looking forward to be
sick to get the loving and caring she would give us. I really don`t remember Ellen ever stayed in bed when she was sick. she would always get me and the kids off to work and school, then take care of herself. never had a care-giver when she needed one.
*
BELOVED WIFE, Forty-seven years with the same woman is a gift from God, You may have heard of the old saying
"A marriage made in heaven"
*
Our marriage was made right here on earth, We made our own paradise, We were given three beautiful angles And they given us ten beautiful white doves that we named them as our GRANDCHILDREN.
*
Ellen was the most considerate person I ever met in all my years at 77, If Ellen knew your birth date or anniversary, you certainly would expect a card in the mail, Ellen would always carry two or three baggies full of candy in her purse in case she ran in to some one she knew with child in hand.
*
Ellen always had a cassette tape in her purse for a special nephew Steve who would always know that she had one for him no matter when and where they would meet. Steve is 56 now and still looks for Ellen and his tape.*
Ellen would always call each of the children, and all the grand children on their birth date, and would sing over the phone Happy Birthday song to them every year till the day she pass a way.
*
We didn`t own a pet any more in our late years, But that did not stop Ellen from taking care of the neighborhood cats, I had to go to the store and buy 25 pound bags of cat food because we had six cats that came for breakfast every morning and dinner evert night. there would be a box of dog bones on the grocery list for the two neighbors dogs. and she would
have a couple dog bones in a baggie bag in her purse for any dog she would see at the duck pond.
*
Speaking of the duck pond, We would go there twice a day to feed them and the Canadian geese, I would go to the discount store to buy the day old bread for her.
*
~ Ellen all I can say is with tears running down my cheeks THANK YOU for loving and careing for me the way you did ~
Husband Bob
??
Do you want more ??
.*
~ WHAT IS LOVE ~
?
Ellen could have wrote a book on this subject, Imagine yourself living here in America, And you fall in love with some German person on a six month vacation in America. now you find that you both don`t understand a word that you say to each other, and you do like each other and the time is running out on his or her`s vacation,
*
NOW he asked you to marry him and leave America and stay in his country, and bring up your children as German children what do you say. has no job, has no apartment to take you to, has no money or health insurance
What would you tell him or her what ever it may be. Well I think you get the idea what I am saying or going to tell you
now.......
*
Will It certainly is a big decision for one who has to leave their country, Because you will also be leaving your family
and friends behind, your Doctor and medical records. you will miss speaking you own language, and learn a new one.
Can you imagine the fear you would experience when you stop and think what did I do? What if I don`t like his country, or his family. what if I am not excepted in the family. You will be asking where do I go? Who is here to help me.
IT`S
CERTAINLY SCARY..
*
But there is a light at the end of this tunnel Because there is power , and strength in love. And you must prevent
it from drying for any reason, Love can ease pain, and discomfort, it can also make you feel seven feet tall, and with the strength of atlas. Love can also distroy as well, So you must work hard to keep it a live.
*
Ellen knew how to do just that, Our love for each other is as strong as it was when we met , maybe stronger. You
may be wondering how did she keep the fire of love burning for so long. She had her ways..
I will now tell you a few of her ways that you will not ever think of doing your self
*
I know this one will get ya, LOL.. But it is true, it`s a old German custom , Ellen would shine my shoes every night when I went to bed, and she was watch TV. I have told her not to do that and she said she wanted to do it, it`s a nice way a
woman show she cares for her husband.
*
December 6 is saint neckless day in Germany and in my house, every year the children and her would clean and shine their shoe`s and put them out near the door of the house to be filled with candy for the children to show Christmas is
coming.
*
Ellen would put out my clothes when I had to go some where like to the doctors. she always made sure I had the right out fit on, and left the house looking smart. And when I put my hands in my pocket I would find a .
(( Hershey Chocolate Kiss or two))
*
Ever morning she would get out of bed at 5-AM to send me off to work with a hot served breakfast, She would make my lunch bag and put a napkin in it that she had wrote nice sayings on it, always I love you, and more, with a...........
(( Hershey Chocolate Kiss or two. ))
*
There were times I would be sitting having a beer with someone . I might mention I would
like to have something or say I like to get one of those what ever what we may be talking about. If Ellen heard us talking, Well It would not be long after that wish would come true, the item I may have mention would be on my pillow with a
(( Hershey Chocolate Kiss or two. ))
Most homes the man of the house would stand up and cut the dinner table meat and serve it to his family.
Not Ellen, she wanted to do it before she put it on the table so I would get the best cut of the meat. because I am the bread winner as they say and she wanted to make sure I got the best. she told our children that Dad comes first in this house, and then the children, and she would take what is left. that is the way it was. and she was happy
*
Even right up to the day she passed away, She said to our daughter. "Joan I am worried about your
father, What is he going to do, He dose not know how to boil water. Please Joan watch over him when I am gone."
*
I HEARD HER SAYING THIS TO HER WHILE I WAS MAKING SOME SOUP FOR HER OUT IN THE KITCHEN
TEARS AGAIN RUNNING DOWN MY FACE..
*
Ellen would always come home from the mall with some kind of baseball memorabilla for my collection.
I have almost every tool in my work shop that I would ever need thanks to her. she would say to our daughter I don`t think your Dad has this one, and bring it home for me..
.Can you tell me how
DO I GO DOWN THIS PATH ALONE WITH OUT MY BELOVED WIFE BE SIDE ME?
((YOU CAN`T ))
MY WIFE ELLEN HAD LUNG CANCER, AND DIED ON O1/31/2003
*
How do you go on after you lose your BEST FRIEND, your PARTNER, and your CARE-GIVER and HEALER........and Most of all my BELOVED WIFE.
*
MY BEST FRIEND , I could not have had a better or closer friend than my wife Ellen. We went and did everything most of our married life together, Ellen would always make sure that I was happy in what ever we were doing at all times, never thinking of herself, Ellen had told me many times she gets all her enjoyment out of seeing me being happy.
*
Ellen would always put me first, I was not as good at it as she was, Ellen would always have time to listen to my problems, and my fears. Ellen would always comfort me in many ways. She would talk to me as a friend and convince me that I could do and become what ever I aim for. I would lose confidence in myself many of times because of my lack of
education. And if it wasn`t for her strength and encouragement. I would not have this comfortable life I enjoy today.
*
MY PARTNER, we would always make sure that we didn`t ever think that one of us is ever better then the other. We
both had always believe in "It`s better to give then to receive". To have a long life together, you should meet each other at least half way. I always felt that house work, and teaching our children the do`s & dont`s was much harder then my job could ever be. I
would try to help at home cleaning the bath rooms and dusting and run the vac. But Ellen said no I did not have to do that, and said to me it is nice to know that you do realized it was a partnership in the house work and I was willing to help.
*
CARE-GIVER, I could not possibly explain all that Ellen would go though to make me, or any one of our children comfortable when any one of us was ill. Ellen had some of her old German remerdies her grandmother used on her, and believe me when I say this, Ellen would make us feel good being sick, sometimes I think we were looking forward to be
sick to get the loving and caring she would give us. I really don`t remember Ellen ever stayed in bed when she was sick. she would always get me and the kids off to work and school, then take care of herself. never had a care-giver when she needed one.
*
BELOVED WIFE, Forty-seven years with the same woman is a gift from God, You may have heard of the old saying
"A marriage made in heaven"
*
Our marriage was made right here on earth, We made our own paradise, We were given three beautiful angles And they given us ten beautiful white doves that we named them as our GRANDCHILDREN.
*
Ellen was the most considerate person I ever met in all my years at 77, If Ellen knew your birth date or anniversary, you certainly would expect a card in the mail, Ellen would always carry two or three baggies full of candy in her purse in case she ran in to some one she knew with child in hand.
*
Ellen always had a cassette tape in her purse for a special nephew Steve who would always know that she had one for him no matter when and where they would meet. Steve is 56 now and still looks for Ellen and his tape.*
Ellen would always call each of the children, and all the grand children on their birth date, and would sing over the phone Happy Birthday song to them every year till the day she pass a way.
*
We didn`t own a pet any more in our late years, But that did not stop Ellen from taking care of the neighborhood cats, I had to go to the store and buy 25 pound bags of cat food because we had six cats that came for breakfast every morning and dinner evert night. there would be a box of dog bones on the grocery list for the two neighbors dogs. and she would
have a couple dog bones in a baggie bag in her purse for any dog she would see at the duck pond.
*
Speaking of the duck pond, We would go there twice a day to feed them and the Canadian geese, I would go to the discount store to buy the day old bread for her.
*
~ Ellen all I can say is with tears running down my cheeks THANK YOU for loving and careing for me the way you did ~
Husband Bob
??
Do you want more ??
.*
~ WHAT IS LOVE ~
?
Ellen could have wrote a book on this subject, Imagine yourself living here in America, And you fall in love with some German person on a six month vacation in America. now you find that you both don`t understand a word that you say to each other, and you do like each other and the time is running out on his or her`s vacation,
*
NOW he asked you to marry him and leave America and stay in his country, and bring up your children as German children what do you say. has no job, has no apartment to take you to, has no money or health insurance
What would you tell him or her what ever it may be. Well I think you get the idea what I am saying or going to tell you
now.......
*
Will It certainly is a big decision for one who has to leave their country, Because you will also be leaving your family
and friends behind, your Doctor and medical records. you will miss speaking you own language, and learn a new one.
Can you imagine the fear you would experience when you stop and think what did I do? What if I don`t like his country, or his family. what if I am not excepted in the family. You will be asking where do I go? Who is here to help me.
IT`S
CERTAINLY SCARY..
*
But there is a light at the end of this tunnel Because there is power , and strength in love. And you must prevent
it from drying for any reason, Love can ease pain, and discomfort, it can also make you feel seven feet tall, and with the strength of atlas. Love can also distroy as well, So you must work hard to keep it a live.
*
Ellen knew how to do just that, Our love for each other is as strong as it was when we met , maybe stronger. You
may be wondering how did she keep the fire of love burning for so long. She had her ways..
I will now tell you a few of her ways that you will not ever think of doing your self
*
I know this one will get ya, LOL.. But it is true, it`s a old German custom , Ellen would shine my shoes every night when I went to bed, and she was watch TV. I have told her not to do that and she said she wanted to do it, it`s a nice way a
woman show she cares for her husband.
*
December 6 is saint neckless day in Germany and in my house, every year the children and her would clean and shine their shoe`s and put them out near the door of the house to be filled with candy for the children to show Christmas is
coming.
*
Ellen would put out my clothes when I had to go some where like to the doctors. she always made sure I had the right out fit on, and left the house looking smart. And when I put my hands in my pocket I would find a .
(( Hershey Chocolate Kiss or two))
*
Ever morning she would get out of bed at 5-AM to send me off to work with a hot served breakfast, She would make my lunch bag and put a napkin in it that she had wrote nice sayings on it, always I love you, and more, with a...........
(( Hershey Chocolate Kiss or two. ))
*
There were times I would be sitting having a beer with someone . I might mention I would
like to have something or say I like to get one of those what ever what we may be talking about. If Ellen heard us talking, Well It would not be long after that wish would come true, the item I may have mention would be on my pillow with a
(( Hershey Chocolate Kiss or two. ))
Most homes the man of the house would stand up and cut the dinner table meat and serve it to his family.
Not Ellen, she wanted to do it before she put it on the table so I would get the best cut of the meat. because I am the bread winner as they say and she wanted to make sure I got the best. she told our children that Dad comes first in this house, and then the children, and she would take what is left. that is the way it was. and she was happy
*
Even right up to the day she passed away, She said to our daughter. "Joan I am worried about your
father, What is he going to do, He dose not know how to boil water. Please Joan watch over him when I am gone."
*
I HEARD HER SAYING THIS TO HER WHILE I WAS MAKING SOME SOUP FOR HER OUT IN THE KITCHEN
TEARS AGAIN RUNNING DOWN MY FACE..
*
Ellen would always come home from the mall with some kind of baseball memorabilla for my collection.
I have almost every tool in my work shop that I would ever need thanks to her. she would say to our daughter I don`t think your Dad has this one, and bring it home for me..
.Can you tell me how
DO I GO DOWN THIS PATH ALONE WITH OUT MY BELOVED WIFE BE SIDE ME?
((YOU CAN`T ))
MY WIFE ELLEN HAD LUNG CANCER, AND DIED ON O1/31/2003
Slideshow Below showing Ellen & I dating in Berlin Germany 1955 ~ 1958
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